11:43 am Tuesday, 28th May, 2024
Do you tremble at the idea of being taken from behind by a powerful Dom? 😈 Are you sexually submissive and eager to please and service your Master? 🥺🙏 Keen to feel the crack of a whip as it crashes against your pert buttocks? 💥🥵🍑
Well, listen up, sub, because we’re gonna tell you how to be submissive, and how to obey your Dom and reap the raunchy rewards… 😛👇
Trust takes time to build up, so don’t be expected to do exactly what your Dom wants right away. 🤷♀️ A good Dom won’t want that from their sexy sub anyway! 😘
It’s great that you care about how to be a good submissive, but that starts with your own desires and needs. 🙌 Service your Dom, but only do it in a way that you want to. ✊ They might be in control, but how to be a good sub isn’t about being weak! 🙅 Remember that you have the power behind the scenes, because your Dom can only do as much to you as you’re comfortable with. 🤗
When learning how to be a submissive, think about what you want your Master or Mistress to call you. 😏 You could be…
Pick one or many of these, or create your own! As always in sex, just do what feels good. 😍
A good sub will learn to understand their limits – and will be able to communicate them to their Dom when they’re being submissive in bed and submitting sexually. 👌 And remember that you can speak up and use your safeword to stop the action at any time, for any reason. ☝️ We like using a traffic light system: “yellow” for slow down, and “red” for “stop right now”. 🚦
A good Dom will always prioritize your safety – and if you have any doubts, there’s plenty of safe and respectful Doms out there to be sexually submissive with! 🤷♀️👋
Not sure what you’re comfortable with yet when learning how to be submissive? That’s A-OK – be honest with your Dom, and create soft and hard limits. As a reminder, soft limits are flexible personal boundaries to be approached with caution, and hard limits are no-go zones. 🙅
Read about kinks that interest you online. 😜 Create your BDSM bucket list, and bring the toys and tools you wanna use. 🍆🔧😲 Don’t forget to stretch so you can contort your body into allllll those sultry positions – it’s all part of how to be a good submissive. 😏
Our fetishes often come from the darkest places within us… 😈 We might be dealing with a lotta complex feelings, so it’s okay to go slow and figure it out on the way! 🤗 With boundaries and safewords in your back pocket, you’re safe to experiment and discover new realms of kinky pleasure on your way to knowing how to be a good sub. 🤤
Be patient with your Dom – they’re not all-knowing and all-powerful, after all! 🤷♀️💪 They have their own sexual desires, so discover what they are and marry them with your own. That’s a big part of how to be a submissive. 🤝🥵
Be kind and polite to them! Say please and thank you. 🥺🙏
“Please, Sir, hit me harder!” 💥🔥🤤
“Thank you for letting me lick your gorgeous feet, Goddess.” 👅🦶
The excitement doesn’t have to be contained to the sessions, either – it’s not just about being submissive in bed… 😏 Send them messages to remind them that you’re thinking of them. Snap pics of your bruises from the last sesh. 😩😍 Send links to toys and equipment you might wanna try together. 😈
Aftercare is important for everyone! 🤗 Being a Dom has its own challenges – holding your poise and your character can be draining, so talk through the sesh after and show your Dom love, care, affection, and intimacy after submitting sexually to them. 💞 It’s easy to get taken aback by a particularly intense kink sesh, so remind them of how much you value them and how much you love being sexually submissive to them. 🥰 You might just get some rewards next time… 😇🥵
It’s easy to get swept away in the sesh – and that’s often part of the fun! 😜 You should still take moments to check in with yourself and make sure you’re okay. 🥰 There are a lot of fine lines in BDSM – acting helpless can be a fun and horny time, but being helpless is potentially very dangerous. 🙅 It bears repeating: you can use your safeword to pause or stop the action at any time, for any reason. ✨ If your Dom doesn’t respect that, then it’s time to find a new one. Sometimes, learning how to be submissive is learning what you need to walk away from. 🤷♀️👋
After your kinky sweat sesh over, talk to your Dom and tell them what they did to you that drove you wild… Did they hit your G-spot or prostate with that vibrating dildo? 🤤 Was that spanking just the right intensity? Let them know! That’s how to be a good submissive. 😘
Talk about what you might want different next time too – we all learn and grow in sex, and we all wanna give each other maximum pleasure, right? 🥵
Once you’ve learnt how to be a good sub and built up a rapport with your Dom over a few kink sessions, chat to them to figure out what you want your BDSM relationship to be. 👅 How far does your submission go? 😩 Just during sessions, whenever you see your Dom, every time you interact (including online), or even 24/7…? 😲
What can you handle? 😏 What turns you on the most? 🥵 As long as you’re both safe and comfortable, the possibilities are endless! How to be a submissive is not made from one single path. 🥳
Keep track of all your kinky fun from submitting sexually with a BDSM journal. 📖 How do you feel about the dynamic you have with your Dom? 😛 How does thinking about being submissive in bed to them make you feel in your body? 🤤 Any ideas for new fetishes you wanna try? ⛓
Ask yourself all these questions and more, and you might just discover new elements of your deepest, darkest desires. 😈 Reflect, grow, and dive right back in for more, more, more! 🥺🙏😩
Click here to learn the roles of Doms and submissives – that’s your BDSM basics.
Click here for a guide on how to find your mistress.
Click here to discover bondage ideas and tied up sex positions.
