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Is it just me or are there plenty of bi girls but hardly any bi men?
If so what do you think the reason is?

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it's something to do with macho element the male psyche, I think. Lots of guys have the potential to be bi, i'm sure, but seem to be too hung up on the virility thing to give it a try. It's like they think, one bloke touches their dick, and they will flip right over and become completely gay. This particularly applies to teenage boys, who seem to be very agressive about their sexuality, and then later, they get set in their ways. Girls seem to to be a bit more relaxed, and treat the odd snog with their friends as a joke.

Conversely, it's amazing how many ladies who say they are bi don't walk the walk when it comes to the crunch (or rather, the munch!), and also, how 'full' lesbians seem to disaprove of bi-ladies. I don't know why that is, and whether gay guys are the same about bi guys.

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i dont agree with that statement. I am very confident and up to try most things but the thought of another man touching me just doesnt do anything at all? I dont feel any ounce of excitement hence the reason why i dont think i will ever try it. Likewise i couldnt have fun with a lady that i dont find attractive!! img src="imagesadultemoticons006.gif"

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I think a lot more men are bi, or at least curious, than they would admit. I've signed up with a couple of swingers sites, and get a number of contacts from guys whose profiles describe themselves as straight and looking for ladies. However they msg me that they are interested in trying sucking my cock or taking it up their ass.

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Not sure how this groups me but i have a real fantasy about sucking a guy off , not really into guys in any other way though!

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I know that I've always fancied blokes since i was at school, but was always too shy to try anything. Now I've left my wife I decided it was time for action.
I've now had my first cock O and A and I want more! It just felt soooo good and totally natural.
Anyone up for it?img src="imagesadultemoticons006.gif"

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to be honest, it's not something i'm keen to try out but in saying that i'm not the kinda person who'd rule anything out. i'd describe myself as straight though, not bi, but thats not to say that at some point i might not at least want to try something, y'know?

right now however, i can say it's not something i want to try particularly.

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alot of of guy say there bi just to get to the woman in couples but when it comes down to doing the man they back out thats what causes the problem with hook ups

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Have to say in our experience very few men that say they are bi actually are! We have both been bi for a number of years and both of us agree that neither of us find the same sex particulary attractive but in a group scenario there is nothing more horny than feeling free to suck what ever you want to!

I guess it all comes down to how comfortable you feel with your sexuality and that feeling horny about the same sex does not mean you are gay!

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Have to say in our experience very few men that say they are bi actually are! We have both been bi for a number of years and both of us agree that neither of us find the same sex particulary attractive but in a group scenario there is nothing more horny than feeling free to suck what ever you want to!

I guess it all comes down to how comfortable you feel with your sexuality and that feeling horny about the same sex does not mean you are gay!

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Have to say in our experience very few men that say they are bi actually are! We have both been bi for a number of years and both of us agree that neither of us find the same sex particulary attractive but in a group scenario there is nothing more horny than feeling free to suck what ever you want to!

I guess it all comes down to how comfortable you feel with your sexuality and that feeling horny about the same sex does not mean you are gay!

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There is no known answer to the question, only personal views to add.
We are surprised at the number of older guys who are, or say they are bi curious and even mention it when writing to us. Me, Jose tried all that when I was younger and seriously believed for years that most young guys did the same, now I am not so sure that I was right. I made the choice eventually to be completely hetero, but do have some fond memories of one or two fun encounters.
If we are to believe that homosexuality is as natural as it is said to be and is quite common in the animal kingdom, we have to accept that is not as unnatural as many people think. Why is it sometimes called Greek? I`m sure they didnt invent it. A lot has to do with our upbringing and the type of people we mix with as we grow up.
It is a surprise for us how many women are bisex and it seems to be a trendy thing. Maybe we guys aren`t doing a good enough job? Gloria has never had any bi experience and is absolutely certain that she does not want to try it now! I do not have a problem with that at all, as I have had 3 goes at being in bed with 2 women, all of which were completely forgettable experiences and would never wish to try it again.
Live and let live. Whatever turns you on. Don`t knock if you haven`t tried it.

Happy swinging, Jose & Gloria

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I have had bi sex with a couple where the guy sucked me and I returned the favour but dont really fancy guys and consider myself straight which is a bit of a contradiction I guess.

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I think there are a couple of factors.

First, I think most guys think that some guy-on-guy action automatically means anal sex - which it doesn't.

Then there's the effeminacy thing. A lot of guys think that they are suddenly going to become camp with a lisp or a desire to wear a dress. There's nothing wrong with that - it's just that being with another guy won't change the person that you are or the things you enjoy doing.

Maybe it's just a case of being straightforward about expectations and limits - the same as a straight couple would do. People tend to be more experimental when limitsboundaries are set and wishes are going to be respected.

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Most guys -rightly or wrongly, I can't comment - see gay sex as meaning taking something up the bum. Now, I know I like my out hole to be just that - an out hole. I think thats where the big fear comes from.


The other aspect is girls are generally a lot more intimate with each other than guys. Seeing girls hug and kiss (as in a peck, not a full on snog) is a lot more common than seeing two guys hug and kiss. That makes the prospect of seeing two guys snog, or go further, seem more...unnatural to most people than seeing girls do it.


Which is strange, because most gay guys I know are great while the majority of lesbians I know are evil hate filled battle creatures sent to destroy civalisation from the inside out.

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An interesting topic!

I'm straight - definitely - having any form of that sort of contact with another guy is NOT my scene. Yet I just l-u-v bi girls, so where's the difference? Simple - as a hetero I like girls, especially naked girls, especially naked girls having sex, so the more of them the better!
Tho' I don't want sex with guys, I don't mind watching a guy pounding away at a girl, it's quite a turn-on in fact - but if I then want to fuck the girl myself I'd want the other bloke to keep his distance - tho' at her other end might do....
Put it down to the rich variety of human likes and dislikes perhaps.

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im bi and male and find their are more married men interested in trying it than there are single bi men. a lot of them like to wear their partners underwear to. it bemuses me why men get in relationships that they cant be true to themselves or their wives.
whats the point of marrying someone who doesnt really know you? personally ever since i first tasted cock i knew id be hungry for it always....i could never love a man tho. thats why id rather be honest with a lady from the start